The beautiful agony of healing

I am burning, in the crucible of my heart. I have no other choice, Because now, I am broken, cracked wide open – my soul prized apart and shattered into a million shards of agonising love. Yes – Agonising. Love. Because my heart is literally exploding – it has become a woefully inadequate vessel, unable […]

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How to forgive the unforgivable

I thought I had forgiven you, but I was fooling myself. So you kept coming back into my life, until I finally learned what forgiveness is really all about. And it’s not what we’ve been taught. You’ve had many different faces over the years, and they’ve all been ugly and twisted, contorted in anger, rage […]

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How to end relationship conflict

In romantic relationships, we often face conflict, disappointment, boredom and heartbreak. Our conditioned reaction to all this suffering is to resist and escape it. And we assume that our partner is guilty of inflicting this suffering onto us – after all, they behaved in a way which caused us pain. Their words and actions can […]

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The true meaning of ‘soul mate’

Our romantic partner is our biggest teacher, and profound tool for awakening. Because, romantic relationships are usually based on conditional love, where two egos come together, sometimes in harmony, but often in a battle for power and control, which leads to inevitable conflict, disappointment and disillusionment. We expect our partner to make us feel happy, […]

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Everything is ok…

Just for a moment, this moment, now… is it possible to imagine, that everything is deeply ok? Because, everything is ok… everything that happens – every thought, every emotion, every word, every action… by everyone and everything, everywhere, always. Why? Everything that arises is ok, because it has already been accepted to arise, now, in […]

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The beautiful gift of illness, injury and physical pain

I squirm in my fleshy prison of illness and pain, and I suffer. This disease, this injury – so unwanted, so unfair – it debilitates my fragile body, and tortures my exhausted mind, preventing me from truly living. I am a ghost of my former ‘self’. Now, I am ‘a sick person’, afflicted with a […]

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Ending a dark night of the soul

What happens now? Now that I’ve seen though every illusion created by my mind. What am I now? Now that I’ve seen through every story of ‘me’, and realized that there’s nothing underneath? It’s all a grand lie, all just a fiction created by my mind… and this realization leaves me paralyzed, as my soul […]

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Love is not what we think

My mind perceives a world of polarity – good and bad, desirable and undesirable, positive and negative… ultimately expressed as ‘love’ and ‘fear’. My mind tells me that I want more love, because I resist, deny and suppress the undesirable polarity of fear, and this causes me to suffer. So I grasp and cling to […]

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Seeing through the illusion of suffering

I take on a spiritual idea, a belief – ‘Suffering is an illusion. The ‘self’ is an illusion.’ Does this mean that suffering and the ‘self’ do not exist, because they are just illusions? But, I still suffer, I am still aware of a ‘self’, who thinks, who feels… who suffers. What if, my belief […]

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To empaths who need healing

I know, it’s hard being an empath. I understand that you are ultra-hyper-sensitive, and literally feel and experience the emotions, moods and energies of the people around you. It’s like being stabbed in the nervous system with a thousand live electrical wires, 24-hours a day. I know it’s exhausting and overwhelming to constantly feel so […]

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Healing unworthiness issues

We can have many toxic beliefs about our own unworthiness, but two simple beliefs underpin them all – ‘I am unworthy. I am unlovable’. But what if these beliefs are not true at all? Is one tree more worthy than another tree? Is one bird more worthy than another bird? Is one cloud more worthy than another […]

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